INFO & FAQs

general

  • The Sondering is a new micro-festival (approx. 300 capacity) in the Lake District that explores death, dying, and grief in new (and old) ways. Using a blend of arts, nature, ritual, community and death care expertise, we’re asking the question - can exploring mortality creatively, consciously and communally bring us closer to life and each other?

    Think part festival, part retreat, and part shared experiment. It’s a co-creation where the ‘audience’ are participants, playing a vital role in holding the space for each other and having lots of opportunity to get involved rather than just ‘watch’.

  • Sonder [noun]: the felt sense of shared humanity upon realising that each passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own.

    The word Sonder was first coined as a noun in 2012 by John Koenig. He maybe didn’t expect it to inspire the name of a death festival in the Lake District more than a decade later, but here we are. We loved it, and thought it should be a verb - something we do/be/are. What is sondering? 

    To us it’s being connected to ourselves, each other and to nature. It means living with compassion, gratitude, presence and expression, and supporting others to do the same.

    Our hope is that by creatively and communally facing our shared mortality, we can live richer more sonderful lives.

    The Sondering is where we gather to sonder hard, in the hopes we can sonder on. 

  • Friday 18 - Monday 21 September 2026

    The Sondering helps welcome the autumn equinox, an important time of the year’s cycle where light and dark are in balance. 

    • Arrive Friday from 3pm

    • Off site Monday by 10am


    Cars won’t be allowed to leave the site once parked, except in emergencies. 

    Programming will run from Friday evening until midnight, and 8am - midnight on Saturday and Sunday.

  • Barn In The Fells, Rydal, Cumbria LA22 9PN Barn in the Fells

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    PUBLIC TRANSPORT: The site is situated just off the A591 road, making it very accessible by public transport. Windermere is the nearest train station, it is about a 20 minute bus/taxi ride from there to the site.  

    Regular bus services that connect with the site are the 555 (Kendal → Keswick. Keswick → Kendal) and 599 (Bowness → Grasmere). Both these buses stop at Windermere Train Station. The closest bus stop to the site is a 5 min stroll from the site entrance - get off at Scandale Bridge and follow the festival signs. These buses are usually every 20 minutes and also connect you with the nearby towns of Ambleside and Grasmere. 

    DRIVING: Please help us reduce the environmental impact of the festival by lift sharing where possible or taking public transport if you’re able to. If you need to bring a car, you’ll have to buy a weekend car parking pass (£18 + processing fee) per vehicle.  Cars will need to remain onsite for the duration of the weekend (except in emergencies).

    Car parking passes must be purchased at the time of booking your tickets, if you need to add a parking pass at a later date please email ticketing@thesondering.co.uk 

  • The Sondering is for anyone aged 18+ curious about exploring modern death culture in new ways, outside of traditional faith-based settings.

    We expect our community will reflect the myriad ways in which we can be human, this includes people with a range of spiritual or religious beliefs, ages, skin tones, backgrounds, financial pasts and presents, gender identities, sexualities, world views, and ways of experiencing the world physically and neurologically. And we’re delighted about that. This may include (but is not limited to):

    • simply curious mortals

    • people who want to be able to show up for themselves, their loved ones and their communities on these topics

    • people who have experienced bereavement 

    • people supporting others through transitions 

    • people who are facing their own mortality 

    • people whose loved ones can’t/won’t have ‘the conversations’ 

    • people who don’t feel represented by their own culture’s or community’s way of handling these topics 

    • people who are spiritual but non-religious and whose community’s traditions don’t speak to them 

    • queer humans and those who often experience disenfranchised grief 

    • people with experience of any form of grief - it’s all welcome

    • people already experienced in the ways of death, dying and grief and who want to connect with others in this space 

    There is no ‘right or wrong’ reason to come to The Sondering, all we ask is that you bring your humanity and respect for all when you do. Open minds and warm hearts please.

    Only you can decide whether this is the right time for you. See question re psychological safety for more detail.

    Everyone is welcome but we appreciate it may not be for everybody! 

  • Not yet sorry. This first iteration of The Sondering is designed as an adult cultural experience whilst we establish and test our new approach to death culture.

    We’re not currently resourced to offer the dedicated programming, facilities or safeguarding required to support children and young people (and their adults) meaningfully on these topics, and that’s too important to dabble with. 

    In cases where finding appropriate childcare for a very young infant presents a barrier to attendance, we may permit ‘babes in arms’ (non-mobile infants under 12 months old who cannot crawl or walk) on a case by case basis. Please note, only infants in this category would be permitted on site and they must be with their responsible adult at all times. There are on site changing facilities in the main stage barn which is open 11am - midnight.

    If you are considering bringing a ‘babe in arms’ we will ask that you take physical and emotional accountability for yourself and your child at all times, and kindly ask you to consider the experience of other festival go-ers in spaces and sessions which are designed for attentive listening or somatic/emotional response. 

    We believe death literacy matters at all ages, and we hope to develop family-friendly and intergenerational offerings in future editions once we can do this with confidence and the appropriate care required.

TICKETS

  • Weekend passes are released in tiers: 

    • Early Bird (£150 + third party processing fee)

    • First Release (£165 + third party processing fee)

    • Second Release (£177 + third party processing fee)

    • Final Release (£190 + third party processing fee). 

    • Supporter (£222 + third party processing fee) - includes a donation to The Sondering CIC to allow us to offer more concessionary tickets to those in the community on low/no income. 

    A limited number of discounted "Concession" tickets (£115 + processing fee) are available for those impacted by the themes of the festival but for whom full ticket price is a barrier to entry. These are limited and provided in the spirit of community, we won’t be asking to see proof. Please only use this ticket type if you are unable to afford any other ticket tier. 


  • No, for this year at least the festival will operate on a full weekend ticket model only. This is an intentional approach that allows us to better support the experience of participants, building a sense of community and safer shared journeying across the weekend. It also reduces traffic to/from the site.

  • While we do not offer refunds, we know life (and death) happens. You are welcome to transfer your ticket by updating the name via your Ticket Tailor confirmation email. There is also an option at checkout to add TicketTailor’s ‘ticket protection’ which for a small additional fee insures your ticket, allowing you to claim a refund if you can’t attend anymore. 

    As long as it’s safe to do so, The Sondering will be going ahead whatever the weather. If we need to cancel the event for reasons beyond our control, then we will issue full ticket refunds minus any booking fees. If the festival is rescheduled to a future date, your tickets will remain valid for the new date. If you are unable to attend the rescheduled date, you will be given a specific window of time to request a refund. Please note, booking fees or transaction fees will not be refundable as they are processed by third-party providers.

    You can read the full terms and conditions on Ticket Tailor when you purchase your tickets.

  • A standard weekend pass includes access to all festival programming including workshops (subject to capacity), a standard camping pitch in the Long Meadow and hot showers. 

  • Yup, see below.

    Sauna passes: We will have a wood-fired sauna on site with beautiful views and a cold shower, it will be staffed throughout by our wonderful local sauna partner Tarn Saunas. We are selling a limited number of weekend sauna passes that give you access to 45 minute sessions between 8am - 7pm on Saturday and Sunday. For peak times, you may need to put your name down on the booking board to reserve your slot(s) for the day ahead.

    You can also upgrade your accommodation to glamping (plenty available) or onsite B&B (very limited) - see question below re accommodation options. 

  • Onsite you can:

    • camp in your own tent (pitch included in the ticket). 

    • book a ‘campervan’ pitch if you’re bringing a live-in-vehicle to sleep in. No EHU

    • treat yourself to a flipping gorgeous pre-erected bell tent for 2-4 people, furnished with camp beds, bedding and accessories. 

    • go full comfort mode with a B&B room (with ensuite and full Lakeland cooked brekky!) at the on site Crow How Country Guesthouse - available at cost to us through our ticketing platform. 

    If the onsite accommodation isn’t for you, there are many nearby hotels and B&Bs. If you do choose to stay offsite, please email us at ticketing@thesondering.co.uk as we need to ensure site numbers for health and safety.

    You will need to inform a member of the team when you re-enter the site each day. Please note that if you’re parking on site, vehicles won’t be allowed in and out unless in an emergency or for access requirements. 

  • Two ace local catering trucks will be serving delicious breakfast, lunch and dinner options throughout. All delicious, nutritious and environmentally conscious with a range of price points. Cash and card accepted.

    • Cloud9 Kitchen will serve a restaurant quality street food menu of meat, veggie and vegan options, coffees and sweet treats.

    • Earthworm Kitchen will be serving a scrumptious and well-loved vegan-only offering as well as hot and cold drinks and sweet treats. 

    • A full bar is located in the barn open from Friday evening - Sunday night. 

    • Drinking water refill points are available across the site.

    • Free tea (and optional hugs) available all weekend at our Tea & Hugs Caravan.

  • You may bring limited amounts of alcohol to site on your first entry. No glass. 

    One of the following per adult

    • 8 x 440ml cans of lager/cider/beer OR

    • up to 70cl of spirits (not in glass) OR

    • 8 x 250ml cans of premixed spirit drinks OR

    • 3-litre box of wine OR

    • 2 litres of cider/lager/beer in plastic bottles or cans

    Excess alcohol will be confiscated and forfeited to us for use at parties and as presents. Alcohol can only be brought into the festival on your first entry. There is strictly no re-entry to the festival with alcohol. No bulk items e.g. cases or slabs of cans and keg dispensers are allowed.

    Support the bar - The Sondering CIC don’t receive any income from it but the venue does and we want to help repay their kindness by taking a gamble on our brand new festival. They’re ace.

  • All the usuals, strictly no weapons or illegal drugs and no glass, bbqs, fires or excess alcohol.

    We ask you to be mindful of the waste generated by anything you’re bringing - please avoid single use plastic wherever possible.

  • Afraid not. As much as we love dogs, as the event takes place on a working farm no animals are allowed on the festival site with the exception of service animals.

    Please get in touch ahead of time to let us know if you will be attending with a service animal.

  • Some things you’ll probably be glad of bringing:

    • Camping gear (September in the Lake District) 

    • Extra blankets

    • Camping chair

    • Head Torch / torch

    • Weather appropriate gear inc warm layers, waterproof jacket and comfortable shoes

    • Swimming stuff for sauna 

    • Swimming stuff for wild swimming 

    • Towels (mandatory for sauna use)

    • Reusable water bottle

    • A flask / mug for tea refills

    • Hot water bottle for bedtime

    • Yoga mat or similar if you have one  

    • Battery pack

    • Tissues

  • There is 5G onsite but it can be patchy in places, there is no wifi.

    We’re asking you to be mindful about when you choose to use your phone. Some sessions may include intimate and vulnerable moments that are best without our rectangle friends. 

    Equally it’s a special time and there will be things you want to capture, and we would love to see all the moments you choose to share. Sharing the magic is really helpful for us as a grassroots festival refusing to spend money on insta ads so don’t feel you have to go radio silent (unless you want to). 

    Essentially, be present in the moment - be aware of others and consider permissions and personal stories. Share the light and the shade of it all - but don’t spill anyone else’s beans.

    Please note some sessions will be strictly phone free spaces, your facilitators will let you know on arrival. 

    We will have professional photographers and videographers throughout and will share our highlights with you post event.

  • Yes there will be somewhere to charge your phone.

ACCESS & CARE

  • We ask for accessibility requirements when you book your tickets, but we thought this might be useful to know now:

    The physical space

    • The site is a working farm with made-up roads around the barn (main stages, bar and indoor toilets), dining area and B&B.  Our on-site programming is situated close together.

    • The car park is very close to the Long Meadow camping field (less than 300m) 

    • Camping, glamping and some activities/workshops are in the Long Meadow field, which is ‘flat’ but as it is a natural surface is not completely even ground

    • Access between the camping area and main performance area is around 500m over the fields, some of this is uneven ground and may get muddy.

    • There is an accessible indoor toilet at the barn and an accessible portaloo and shower in the Long Meadow camping field.

    • There are two indoor stages - The Threshold Stage and The Undercroft. One upstairs, one down, both accessible to wheelchair users. 

    • To move between the lower ground Undercroft stage and the Barn’s main stage (upper floor)  is an uncovered made-up road of approx 100m.

    • We will be designating the gardens of Crow How Guesthouse as a quiet area. 

    • Areas around site will be clearly signposted. Please bring a torch for getting around at night as we cannot light the whole site.

    • We are planning some limited off-site programming including a walk along The Coffin Route from the site (Barn In the Fells) to Grasmere. These activities will be supported by outdoor guides along well established public routes. We will share more information about these closer to the time. 

    • If you want to attend Sunday’s off-site performance in St Oswald’s Church in Grasmere without doing the Coffin Route walk, this can be reached by bus or taxi in about 15 minutes.

    • If you require additional supplies - the nearest town is Ambleside (20 minute walk, 5-10 minute taxi or frequent public transport)

    Our staff / your support

    • Our staff have all had Neurodiversity and Inclusion training.

    • We have on site first-aiders and a welfare team offering physiological and emotional support within their professional scope.

    • Our staff and supporters will be wearing something identifiable so you can easily spot them. Once onsite, just let our team know if there is anything that you need. We’ll update this section closer to the event so you’ll know what they’ll be wearing.

    • If you have any questions or concerns in advance of coming, you can contact our staff via either email, phonecall or text message at : hello@thesondering.co.uk / 07719125068

    • We have made it clear in our attendance guideline that we have a zero tolerance policy towards any form of discrimination – if you are a witness to this type of behaviour, please let a member of staff know.

    Adjustments that we are happy to make 

    • We can reserve camping and parking spaces nearest the Long Meadow entrance 

    • We can help carry bags to your pitch/glamping tent if we know your requirements in advance. 

    • If we know in advance we can produce a programme in large print or make it available audibly. 

    • We have limited sensory packs available for use over the weekend

    • Once our full lineup is confirmed, you can ask to see our ‘sensory timetable’; a list of all of the main sensory experiences that you may encounter. This will include some performances and spaces that will be scented with natural oils and incense.

    • Our food vendors will highlight any allergens but are also happy to discuss this with you if you have any questions or concerns

      If you would benefit from any other reasonable adjustments that we have not mentioned, then please just let us know in advance of the festival and we will do our best to facilitate what we can.

  • We know death, dying, and grief are topics that can bring up strong emotional and physical responses. The Sondering is intentionally small in this first year so we can look out for one another - but it’s important to acknowledge the natural limitations of a festival setting.

    This is a space for exploring difficult topics through art, ritual, nature immersion and community. It’s also a space for joy, laughter and celebrating life. While it is supported by deep care, it is not a continually ‘fully held’ therapeutic space, and it is not a grief retreat.

    What there is

    • Expert Facilitation: Experienced practitioners across somatics, breathwork, grief work and ancestral healing.

    • Welfare Team: Friendly, grounded, experienced humans on hand if you need a moment of extra support.

    • Free Tea & Hugs: A designated area for chats, proper brews, laughs, tears and low-stakes connection.

    • Quiet Zone: A beautiful garden as a dedicated quiet space where you can retreat to decompress.

    • Considerate curation: Artistic and holistic programming created to support reflection, release and return.

    • Content Transparency: Brief content warnings before sessions and performances so you can choose what feels right for you in the moment.

    • Ritual Scaffolding: Simple rituals big and small to help us bring intention and presence to the moment.

    • Solidarity: A friendly community of fellow participants and plenty of space to get to know them and share your lived experiences.

    • Community Guidelines: Informed by grief-tending practices to help us all show up for each other and ourselves safely. We’ll be sharing these with ticket buyers in the coming months.

    • Practical Safety: On-site First Aiders and outdoor guides for offsite activity.

    • Nature: She’ll be by our side (+ under foot and overhead).

    • A good tissue budget

    What there isn’t

    • Therapy: We are not a substitute for professional 1:1 mental health support.

    • Personalised Crisis Care: We cannot provide sessions tailored to your specific clinical needs or history.

    • 24/7 Holding: While the vibe is supportive, the space is not ‘fully held’ at scale for the duration of the weekend.

    • Distress Management: Our team is here to support, but they aren't tasked with ‘absorbing’ or managing individual distress for you.

    • A Prescriptive Journey: There is no ‘right’ way to do this festival. You have the total freedom (and responsibility) to opt out of anything that feels like too much.

    We ask that your primary focus remains on being present and responsible for your own emotional capacity and well-being. We are here to witness and support each other, and whilst the festival has specialised first-line support on-hand, all we can ask is that you choose what you engage with, and step away when you need to. 

    The truth is we cannot promise you won't find things upsetting - sometimes, confronting these difficult emotions and topics is precisely the point. In allowing for a range of artistic interpretations we can’t always predict exactly what performances may include - some may be triggering or cover deaths that are distressing. ‘Gallows Humour’ that one person finds cathartic may be too much for another. We invite you to ‘choose your journey’ according to your own thresholds, and be understanding that other people’s might look different.

    Thank you for understanding the complexity of the topic and for playing your part in co-creating the compassionate community we are trying to build together. 

    Ultimately only you can decide whether the festival or the timing is right for you. If you have more questions we are happy to talk to you please drop us an email at hello@thesondering.co.uk and we will have a chat.

  • We are committed to creating an equitable community that respects and supports each other. Weirdly we kinda wonder if addressing the universal experience of death is something that can bring people together.

    We expect our community will reflect the myriad ways in which we can be human, this includes people with a range of spiritual beliefs, cultural backgrounds, skin tones, financial pasts and presents, gender identities, ages, sexualities, world views, and ways of experiencing the world physically and neurologically.

    If you’re coming we ask that you bring your humanity and respect for all when you do. 

    We want to make sure as many people as need The Sondering can attend. Here’s some ways we’re making that happen.

    • Kept tickets priced as fairly as we can

    • Providing an allocation of free tickets to those facing financial barriers and who are affected by the themes. These are being distributed within the community via local groups such as Anti Racist Cumbria.

    • Subsidising 10% of tickets for those on low/no income 

    • Working with artists and practitioners from a range of backgrounds to bring experience, insight and relevance from and to a wide variety of humans

    • Choosing a site which is as accessible as we can make it to those with mobility issues

    • Organisers (which include neurodivergent women) are supported by a diverse lived-experience panel - ensuring sensitivities are managed as best we can.  

    • Providing intersectional welfare support that is trauma informed across the topics

    • Prepared to fail forward. We know we might not get everything right, but we would rather try and risk getting it wrong than not try at all. Let us know!


    We have a zero-tolerance policy for hate language, discrimination, or any behaviour that undermines the safety and dignity of others. We reserve the right to ask people to leave for these or any reasons.

  • The Sondering is treading as lightly as possible. This land has looked after us so much, we want to love and look after her.

    We are

    • Using recycled and upcycled materials wherever possible - including dead and discarded items.

    • Using local suppliers who also use local suppliers.

    • Encouraging public transport by choosing a site well connected by public transport and charging for car parking.

    • Implementing a strict no single-use plastic policy on site.

    • Sharing the ways you can help us keep the site as healthy as possible. Full info to follow.

    • Tracking and reviewing environmental impact after the event. Can you tell The Sondering happened one month later? We hope not.